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Mothers often wonder, and books and web pages disagree, about whether you should hide veggies on a plate in the hope your child will eat them without noticing.  My answers as a registered dietician are the same as my answer as a mom: you should not.

Having a toddler always means power struggles. A main focus of my work with helping families feed their children from infancy to their teenage years is to take the power struggle out of food.

A big aspect of this is removing all forms of pressure, including hidden vegetables. After all, how would you feel if someone hid something in your food? I know I’d be upset! I like to empower kids with choices from what is offered.

Here are a few tips:

  • Parents choose what’s served, then kids choose from what’s offered. Let’s say the meal is chicken, rice and broccoli. The kids can eat as much as they want of any of those foods. If they don’t choose broccoli that’s okay. Really. Continue offering vegetables with every meal, but remove the pressure to eat them. If the rest of the family eats their veggies and there’s no pressure, your kids might surprise you. If they do choose a broccoli, they shouldn’t be pressured to eat it. Don’t create any kind of pressure such as insisting they try a bite, or finish what they take, or eat like everyone else.
  • Involve kids. Let them help choose vegetables to go with dinner. Let them pick something new to try at the grocery store. Let them help prepare the vegetables for dinner. Kids love to grate, cut, wash, pull out of the fridge, etc. Involve them based on their age and ability.
  • Don’t hide any vegetables. Making a pureed soup? That’s great, but tell your kids what’s in it. Everyone, including kids, has preferences. They may or may not like certain vegetables, and that’s their right. I’m sure most parents remember being forced as a kid to eat things they didn’t like. Don’t repeat that behavior for your kids.
  • Grow a garden. Having kids plan and plant a vegetable garden can pique their interest. If they’ve seen the food grow and helped with the process, they often want to try the end result. Container gardening works for this, or a community garden or a u-pick.
  • Offer a variety of forms of veggies, like cooked, raw, roasted, grated, cubed, etc. Providing different forms for a vegetable can be a real hit. Try putting vegetables in smoothies and baked goods, but always tell your child what vegetables are in there.
  • Be a role model. When kids see everyone else enjoying vegetables and the pressure is removed, they will often try some. Be sure to include vegetables with every meal and snack. Making an omelet for breakfast? Throw in some veggies. Load up that sandwich at lunch with veggies, and have some veggies and hummus for a snack. Try having a salad on the side with dinner and incorporating a rainbow of color with your veggies in the meal.
  • Presentation matters. Try serving meals with the makings in different bowls in the center of the table. Everyone can pick and choose what they want. Try using little containers to put cut-up veggies in with hummus for a snack at school or on the road. You don’t have to make vegetables look like various characters and elaborate pictures like you see on Pinetrest, but presenting them with a little thought can go a long way. Some families find using catchy names gets their kids interested — trees instead of broccoli, cauli-power, etc. Remember: the more color, the more appeal.

In short, it’s about building trust. Removing the power struggles from food choices is so important. Don’t deceive children about vegetables being in a dish. If a pureed soup has different vegetables in it and your kids enjoy it, they may not even realize they like these vegetables if they aren’t told what they’re eating. In fact, deception can backfire — children won’t eat something again just out of spite, or they won’t eat a vegetable because they don’t know they like it.

If a child tries a new food and doesn’t like it, it’s fine to spit it out. Just teach them a polite way to do so. Knowing they have the option to spit it out can encourage them to try more. It takes 15-20 times of trying a food to decide you actually like it so it might take a lot of spitting it out before they know whether they like it or not. As long as you provide the option to try vegetables in their own time, it will happen. Don’t lose patience, and don’t lose hope.

My best advice: don’t worry! It won’t be like this forever. When people are really concerned I work with them to look at ways pressure can appear and power struggles develop. We go through their diet to ensure their child is getting necessary nutrients or to find alternatives that the child accepts.

Remember, kids have different eating patterns. This is normal.

Concerned that your kids aren’t getting what they need because they don’t eat vegetables? Wondering how to empower your kids to eat more vegetables? Contact Jill, Nurture The Future’s Registered Dietitian at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.


Published in Child Nutrition

Despite research that claims a recent improvement, childhood obesity remains a prominent problem which has not declined in the last decade. Unfortunately, many parents unknowingly fuel their child’s unhealthy habits.

Children who are heavy prove more likely to develop serious health risks like high blood pressure, diabetes, and an early death sentence. Even if children are able to lose the weight, personalized health care plan doctors have found that they are often more susceptible to these health risks later on in life.

These five tips will help to fight against childhood obesity, giving them a long healthy life.

1. TV Time

Television has taken over the world with its entertaining escape from reality. However, too much TV can have a powerful impact on children’s obesity.

In a study of obese children, 90 percent had been exposed to television as a brand new baby, while 50 percent were active participants, placed in front of television by their parents. As children grow older, if they are used to spending hours in front of a television, they will lose interest in other activities that could help them to become active and healthy.

2. Role Model

Children learn from example. If they see Mom and Dad vegging out in front of the TV, eating poorly, or ignoring their health, they will most likely follow this set pattern. Kids love to be just like their parents, and with parents setting an influential example of health, kids are likely to adopt this model. Habits that begin when children are young are likely to persist as they age. Depending on the habit, this can be a good thing or a bad thing.

3. Nutrition

No matter how busy life gets, the importance of eating a well balanced diet can never be reiterated enough. Even though a drive-thru meal might be more convenient, it can have serious consequences on a child’s body.

Good nutrition starts with the most important meal of the day: breakfast. Children need breakfast—and a nutritious one at that—to perform well in school. Whether it is a whole grain cereal, which has been linked to lowering BMI, toast, eggs, etc., breakfast should be high in protein and low in sugar. It will keep children alert throughout the school morning while adding nutrients to their growing bodies.

4. Get Outside

Too often children are allowed to spend more time inside playing with electronics than outside exercising. While occupying a child with a video game or tablet sometimes seems like the easiest thing to do, it might be hurting the child’s overall health.

Children need to spend time outside playing, using their imagination, socializing with neighborhood kids, and being active. Activity not only helps to prevent obesity; it also stimulates creativity and cognitive function.

5. Be Honest

While kids should certainly not be obsessing over their weight, they should recognize and understand the importance of health. Along with showing them what to do, talk openly and often about making good food choices and setting an exercise routine. Educate yourselves together by researching good health habits and setting family goals.  

Children need a health precedent set for them, and the best people to advise them are definitely their own parents.

Published in Child Health
Thursday, 10 October 2013 22:33

Toddler Time at The Nature Center

In 1916, the wild Cypress Creek wetlands of Coconut Creek, Florida were drained. This morning, I drive to Fern Forest Nature Center to visit the 247 acres of what remains. I want my 22-month-old son and to see our south Florida homeland untouched by housing developments, strip malls, and busy roadways.

I park and help my little one out of the car seat.  He wants to bring his “truck book” along. So, I tuck it in my backpack knowing that soon he’ll be mesmerized by tall trees, spider webs, and fish swimming in streams. It’s true. As soon as we begin walking in the woods, a calm energy surrounds us. He goes at a slow pace, soaking it all in.

“Mama!” he points to spiders above and fish below. He never once asks for the book.

It is toddler time at the nature center. We sit in a circle of women and little ones. The focus today is arachnids. My son alternates between nursing, sitting on my lap, and standing to watch the facilitator read a colorful book about eight legged wonders. She turns to the picture of a scorpion. Something like “Aahharrah!” erupts from my little one’s lips. He stands with eyes wide. His primal sound of wonder joins the articulation of a little finger pointing to the photo. We all laugh.

Soon, the groups sets forth for a “Let’s look for spiders!” walk. I admire the free spirit in my son who sets his own pace. He notices all sorts of little spider webs along the side of the trail. Soon, the group is far ahead of us. We meander and take our time. We are joined by a dear friend and her 3 ½ year old son.

The boys begin to play. They run, blow on spider webs, share an apple, laugh hysterically, point to trees, and hold hands. My friend and I talk about the healing tonic in wild lands, the need to consume less, and the importance of slowing down the pace of modern life to remember what matters most.

Collectively, we are raising a generation of children who spend most of their time inside playing with plastic toys that beep. They spend far too much time watching screens blast mind-numbing images of great speed and intensity. They consume large quantities of processed food. Breastfeeding rates for toddlers, a norm practiced throughout human history, are abysmally low in our culture. What does this do to the developing brain? Certainly it does little to nurture a connection to the remaining wild places that desperately need protection in our world.

To watch nature unfold, one needs patience not a sugar-induced euphoria. One needs an eye for careful detail and a heart open to simple beauty in order to truly admire the wonder at work when a spider spins her web. Repetitive beeping toys do not elicit such skills. When I think about this, I feel so sad. 

We may debate the specifics, but what I know is this. Our world would be a gentler and healthier place for all children if we lived more simply, bought fewer plastic gadgets, spent more time in wild lands, let little ones nurse freely, and marveled in awe at arachnids each day.

We drive home on the asphalted graves of wetlands. The immense biodiversity just witnessed is reduced to miles and miles of roadway. These roads link our world, our commercial structures, our homes and lives. They also link us to what remains of wilderness. I breathe deeply.

May we do what we can to protect what is natural within the human spirit and within our world. 

 In having a home birth you will not have hospital protocol around you. Having the knowledge that a class can give you may be priceless in the end! Your care provider may be able to give you some insight during your appointments, about what to expect. However this does not substitute taking a class and doing hands on learning.

So how do you choose which to go with? There are so many choices, here is a brief synopsis of some of the choices out there.

Hypnobirthing uses a long term training (start early in your pregnancy), of putting yourself in a sort of trance by using a set series of touches to help you deal with your contractions. There are classes you can take taught by certified people or there is a home training that you can do. 
Hypnobabies similar to Hypnobirthing but rather than use touch as the corner stone for the self hypnosis it is using actual hypnosis to help through pregnancy and labor. It helps you learn a closer bond with your baby and makes it more of a symbiotic process rather than autonomic. This can also be taught by a certified trainer or by a home class using cd’s. 
Birthing From Within this class uses imagery and visualizations to help you move through pregnancy and birth. The class is tought by a certified trainer, but there is a book that you can buy to do your own self study. 
The Bradley Method is often referred to as the Husband Coached Birth. This was created to allow the spouse to be more involved in the birthing process. Again they are taught by certified trainers who have used this method or taken an extensive training program to become certified.
Lamaze has long been used in labors as a breathing technique to get through labor. The organization has grown from just birth to doing more about pregnancy and raising children. This is taught by a certified trainer. 

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Published in Birthing Places

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