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Thursday, 19 September 2013 09:14

Baby Blues – Why Do I Have to Cry?

After giving birth, moms go through an array of emotions and for experienced mom, these emotions be familiar and easy to comprehend. However, every birth is different and in some cases, especially with new moms, there can be overwhelming emotions that are hard to understand.

"Approximately the three quarter of mums experiences it"[1]. The Baby Blues usually appear on the third or fourth day after birth, but it can occur later as well. In a fortunate case it slips by very quickly, but if it lasts for a longer period you should consult with a doctor.

I remember well when my daughter was born five months ago: I was sitting on my bed in the hospital and I was crying. I could always think about my little big-son who was at home. It made my very annoyed that there was my beautiful newborn and I couldn’t feel myself happy. Was the happiness after birth finished? Couldn’t I love her so much as my first baby? A lot of thoughts were swirling in my head, mostly that I’m an awful mother who can’t meet the requirements of "a mother of two". Why didn’t I feel euphoria? Why couldn’t I be happy with my daughter? Now I know that I was overcome by Baby Blues. Fortunately as soon as it came it went by. For me it lasted only one evening, but scientist say it can last for a week, as well.

Among the reasons Baby Blues happen, we can speak about the hormonal changes, as during pregnancy the high level of hormones falls back to the original level on the third day after birth, not to speak about breastfeeding which also causes hormonal changes in our body.[2]

On the other hand we try to suit the requirements, as before birth, but nothing is the same. We are no longer pregnant, we aren’t afraid of labor anymore, and we don’t have to fend for just ourselves (and our husbands). What’s more, mums with their first child can fear about hurting the baby – how can I touch her, how should I put on her clothes, am I doing it well?, etc. Nowadays a mother faces not just these problems alone.

Because I didn’t experience it with my son (or not so seriously to remember it), I tried to get some useful advice how to survive the third (and all the other) days in the hospital:

  • The most important difference was that I didn’t have a roommate. So I was completely alone. Someone came into my room just if he needed something medical. If it is possible try to avoid being alone in a room, a good roommate can make wonders! (I know that a roommate with problems can make our days horrible, but in that case a bad one can be better than no one.)

  • Ask the father to come as often as he can. Of course you have to leave time to relax and be with your baby, but he is a part of your lives. We also allowed our son to visit Mummy and the Baby. In my opinion it can also help him accept the situation of a new sibling.

  • You should have a lot of (or at least some) friends on the other side of the telephone. In Veszprém (where I live in Hungary), the Newborn Department is closed, so either you are standing in front of the door to be able to see your baby, or you give her to the nurses if you want to sit down with your visitors. Both of them are very uncomfortable for the new mums, so the easiest way to communicate is the phone. I can confess that I called almost everybody from my phonebook. “With the right amount of reassurance you will soon start to feel better.”[3]

  • Rest with the baby. Not only does she need to accept the new situation, but also us. The smell of our newborn will surely "narcotize" us. Breastfeed, co-sleep, or just put her on your chest. You can also speak to her. It sounds funny but the only nursery rhyme which came into my mind was "The Turkish and the Cows" from Zsigmond Móricz (it’s a nice Hungarian rhyme). If she is not your first child, we have to learn how to love two children at one time, and how to handle this big amount of love. We have to get used to be a mother of two.

  • Ask the family to bring a good book to us, or with these modern equipments we can watch a movie if we want. The gist is to send our bad mood away.

  • At last but not least, if nothing helps, try to eat chocolate, for me it is always a jolly joker. smiley

 


[1]Magdi: Szomorú anyukák: a baby-blues (Sad moms  the baby blues) Retrieved on 19th September, 2013 from http://piszenpisze.hu/szules/szules-utani-felepules/szomoru-anyukak-a-baby-blues/

[2]Dobos Andrea Beáta: Baby blues – szomorúság szülés után (Baby blues – sadness after birth) Retrieved on 18th September, 2013 from  http://babafalva.hu/baby-blues-szomorusag-szules-utan/

[3]The baby blues Retrieved on 19th September, 2013 from http://www.babycenter.com.au/a541888/the-baby-blues#ixzz2fL0HeZ7w

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I’ve had excessive anxiety throughout my lifetime so it was no surprise that when I became pregnant for the first time I became very anxious about birthing. I didn’t want to have an epidural and in researching the alternatives I found Hypnobirthing which helped relieve my anxiety around birthing. The course included audio birthing affirmations that I listened to time and again and when it was time to birth my baby I was so calm that the hospital staff thought I had an epidural when I had no pain medications whatsoever.

When I became pregnant with my second child I had recently come through a very difficult time in my life. I had overcome panic attacks and severe anxiety. I was finally feeling great. However, the pregnancy triggered a lot of ‘what if’ questions. I started to get very anxious about the possibility of miscarriage. I had no logical reason to worry about this, but anxiety isn’t usually logical.

I did not want to go back to having severe anxiety and panic attacks and thought affirmations could help. However, the affirmations for birthing didn’t have what I needed. Affirmations for overcoming general fears weren’t what I was after either.  I just wanted audio affirmations for pregnancy. I couldn’t find any that were pregnancy specific so I decided to record my own. I also wrote down a few of my favourite affirmations such as “My baby is healthy and strong” and “My baby is developing according to nature’s perfect plan” and I put these along with a few others on a sticky note next to my toilet so I could see them and reinforce them every time I needed to use the toilet (being pregnant this was rather often!).

The affirmations for pregnancy that I developed were very helpful. Once I got over the anxiety that I would miscarry, I used the affirmations to help with my overall mood and energy. I decided to share my affirmations with other women who may be going through what I was going through. I professionally recorded Affirmations for Pregnancy and released them on my website and on iTunes. I sincerely hope that they are helping other women as they helped me. 

If you’re new to the concept of affirmations, they are simply thoughts that you are affirming to yourself. They can be negative (as the obsessive thoughts of anxiety often are) or they can be positive. People often don’t realise that the thoughts they are affirming in their minds are very negative.  Take some time to listen to your self-talk. If you identify many negative thoughts, take action to make your thinking work for you instead of against you. Some examples of affirmations that are good for pregnancy are:

  • I choose to feel good during my pregnancy
  • My baby and I are healthy and strong
  • Meeting my own needs allows me to meet the needs of my baby
  • I have the right to make choices about the birth of my baby

I have a list of pregnancy affirmations that I share as a free gift when you sign up to the mailing list on my website www.affirmationsforpregnancy.com. You can print it out and put it somewhere you can see it often. You can also can write your own affirmations.

Some tips for writing your own affirmations include:

  • Be specific about what you want to happen or how you want to feel
  • State your affirmation in the present tense, writing about it as if it is already happening.
  • Even if you don’t believe your positive affirmation at first, stick with it. With practice you will begin to benefit from repeating the affirmation.
  • Say your affirmations aloud. If you can say them while looking in a mirror they are even more powerful
     

 

Affirmations are just one tool that can help with anxiety. You can find more help for prenatal and postnatal anxiety and depression at http://www.postpartum.net/Get-Help.aspx

Published in Pregnancy
Friday, 25 January 2013 17:21

Sepia, Natures Wise Old Woman

Women these days have very hectic lifestyles. There are stresses with work, family, and finances. There are environmental toxins and poor diet. There is also a disconnect from our bodies and how nature has a perfect plan for the way we function. Homeopathic medicine is a medical system that uses highly diluted doses of natural substances, such as Sepia, to stimulate a person’s immune and defense system. Sepia has a broad range of action over the female body and treats a wide range of diseases. Sepia is a pure ink pigment found in cuttlefish; when threatened, it releases spurts of dark ink, or sepia. The ink is collected for preparation and diluted with large quantities of milk sugar for final use.

Uses

Sepia is mainly used for gynecological complaints such as premenstrual syndrome, painful or heavy menstruation, hot flashes, emotional and physical symptoms during and after pregnancy, candida, and sagging or prolapsed uterus. It is used for women who suffer pain during sexual intercourse or feel exhausted afterward. Women who dislike being touched either premenstrual, during menopause, or as a result of emotional problems are also helped by Sepia. Homeopathic physicians prescribe Sepia to patients whose symptoms include apathy and moodiness. It treats symptoms such as exhaustion and muscle weakness, indigestion, gas and tenderness, headaches, nausea, dizziness, hair loss, itchy or discolored patches of skin, circulatory problems, and profuse sweating.

Premenstrual Syndrome

Sepia can help the woman with premenstrual pain and cramps. It is an anti-spasmodic and helps to regulate the pain caused by the over active uterus. There will be improved blood flow to the abdominal region, reducing pain and cramps caused by blood congestion. Sepia will also help with indigestion, by aiding the digestive system to absorb vital nutrients. It is also an energy enhancer; the chemicals in sepia help improve the respiratory system by increasing the absorption of oxygen levels in the bloodstream.

Menopause

There are lots of homeopathic remedies to consider when dealing with menopause consider, however Sepia outranks them all with distinct indications that are so commonly associated with menopause. The most predominant issue with menopause – change in temperament. From being calm and gentle before menopause, a woman can become irritable. She is sometimes unable to show affection towards family members. The feeling of sadness, with no desire to socialize and no interest in her day to day life makes her feel almost depressed. She tires easily. Flushes of heat in various parts of the body, which may be also associated with excessive perspiration, are common. She is not interested in sex, and may experience a dragging or bearing down sensation in the uterus, feeling as if she has to cross her legs to hold it in. Heavy menstruation is possible, as is little or irregular bleeding. Backaches are often part of the symptom pattern. For this woman, Sepia can work wonders. Sepia 200 c, two doses every week for a period of one month, makes this transition through menopause a comfortable one.

Depression

Bouts of depression resulting from loss or lack of sunlight can be treated with Sepia. An individual needing Sepia will be indifferent, weepy, angry, overwhelmed, and exhausted. Moodiness and depression (particularly in women) that includes tearfulness, anger, a desire to run away and escape, feeling over-burdened, desperate, unable to cope or about to lose control. A person who is exhausted after prolonged stress and strain and argumentative, mostly with loved ones. Fear is also a prominent emotion in a depressed individual. Fear of going crazy, of having some incurable disease, or of impending doom.

Administration & Side Effects

Sepia is available in C potency’s—one part sepia and 99 parts milk sugar. Sepia is most often prescribed in the 200 C potency, which is in the high range of of C potency’s. It is prescribed for the stubborn symptoms listed above. The available forms are sugar pellets and as a liquid. Because it is a homeopathic remedy, the above ailments can be treated without a prescription. Homeopathic remedies are not known to produce side effects, as they have no effect except when matched with particular symptoms. Individual aggravations may occur, such as headaches and nausea.

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