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Finding The Time To For Intimacy & Sex

Tuesday, 05 November 2013 20:51
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Before you and your partner had a baby, if you wanted to have sex you most likely could whenever you wanted. No matter the time or the room in your house. But now that you have a baby you don't have that freedom. Technically your time isn't your own anymore. Think of your baby as your boss and you need to do whatever will make them the happiest. While before you could have sex as soon as you woke up, now the needs of your baby are first. That is sometimes hard on your sex life if you prefer a certain time of day for sex.

Now that you have a baby, every minute is valuable so use your time wisely. Before baby, sex would take a long time with foreplay, sex, then cuddling. Now foreplay can be you doing nice things for each other and stolen glances and kisses. Remember how it was when you were a teenager and you would flirt and get each other riled up with little touches? Now is the time to bring that back. With having foreplay throughout the day, you can get right to the main event in the few minutes you have together. While long sex is great sex, quickie sex can be just as fun. Think of all those feelings and emotions from long sex concentrated. Then when it's nap time or bedtime you can have belated cuddling.

A great way to get the time away from baby to have sex is nap time. As soon as they're asleep you can be together.  Getting up in the middle of the night or early in the morning when you know your baby wont wake up to be changed or fed.

While some babies sleep in their own rooms, some families cosleep. As cosleepers, you have to be more creative in where your going to have sex. You don't need to be limited by only having sex in the bedroom. Your house has many other rooms and places that you can use. Be creative and watch out for rug burns!

Another thing to remember to keep the spark going - date nights. These can be a simple dinner out or a short night away while baby stays with a care provider. Take this time to reconnect and keep the flame burning bright! 

Sometimes you won't have time for sex due to a fussy baby or one that has 'sexdar' (a radar that seems to pick up when you are playing or having sex). There are other ways of having that intimacy like holding hands. If you have a baby that can't sleep without you being in bed with him, you and your partner can cuddle and just be with each other. While having sex is important in relationships you can't forget to just enjoy each other's company as two adults.

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Hi, my name is Chaela. My husband and I have been married almost two years. We have a 18 month old girl, Akira, and are due in November with a boy. Akira is a boobie baby and we will hopefully be tandem nursing come November. We cosleep, its more she lets us sleep with her :-) , delay some vaccines, baby wear, extend rearface, baby sign language, and breastfeeding for how ever long the baby wants too. We are a tattooed and pierced family and I also run the Badass Breastfeeding Moms in Michigan, Facebook group. 

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